PIP For Parents
PIP (Positive Interpersonal Programming) helps you look at yourself
and at your most significant relationships. It is not a test. Rather,
PIP enables you to see your stronger and less strong areas, those
things that you do better and those things that you do less well, those
things within which you should find pride and satisfaction and those
things deserving a little more time and attention from you.
Each section focuses on an important area of your parent life.
Within each section are several statements about the most important
interpersonal elements for that area. Going through all of the sections
and statements will help you look at your parenting strengths area by
area and specifically at your strengths and less strong points within
each area.
To the left of the statements within each section is a blank. Put a
"5" on the blank if the statement is always true for you. Put a "4" if
it is usually true for you. Put a "3" if it is sometimes true for you.
Put a "2" on the blank if the statement is seldom true and a "1" if it
is almost never true for you.
5 = almost always true
4 = usually true
3 = sometimes true
2 = seldom true
1 = almost never true
Once you have finished a section, add together your ratings for all
of the statements in that section. This will give you a combined
score. Next, divide the combined score by the number of statements in
the section. This will give you an average score for that section.
Write in your average score for the section in the blank to the left at
the beginning of the section. Once you have finished all sections, add
together your average scores for each section and then divide by the
total number of sections. This will give you a composite score
indicating how well you function overall as a parent.
When you are finished, you will find that you have some points that
represent real strengths for you and some points that represent less
strong elements. The goal is to work toward average scores of "4" or
above within each section and an overall composite score of "4" or
above.
How do you achieve this level? Go back to the individual
statements, locating those statements where you gave yourself a "1",
"2", or "3". These represent the specific things on which you need to
work.
It is important to use two approaches. First, be sure that you
spend most of your time and energy doing those things that you do well:
those things where you gave yourself a "4" or "5". Do what you do well
and do it as much as possible.
Next, begin to give some time, thought, and energy to increasing how
often you show the behavior, attitude, characteristics, and so on shown
in those statements where you gave yourself lower ratings. Emphasize
your strong points and gradually strengthen your less strong areas.
____ Being A Parent
1. ____ Managing my children
A. ____ I effectively discipline my children.
B. ____ I understand their real needs.
C. ____ I expect about the same things of and for my children as do other adults at home.
D. ____ I deal firmly but gently with my children.
E. ____ I am able to get my children to cooperate.
2. ____ Relating to my children
A. ____ I spend time with them.
B. ____ I am someone with whom my children want to spend time.
C. ____ I am interested in their activities and involvements.
D. ____ I am interested in their problems and difficulties.
E. ____ I am pleased with my children.
F. ____ I am sensitive to their moods and feelings.
G. ____ I give my children room to grow, room to make mistakes, and room to experiment with life.
3. ____ Modeling for my children
A. ____ I set a good example for them.
B. ____ I communicate a positive image of my children to them.
C. ____ I take time to explain things to my children and to discuss things with them.
4. ____ Being Responsible
A. ____ I adequately supervise my children.
B. ____ I recognize and deal with their real problems.
C. ____ I am committed to my children.
D. ____ I appreciate and encourage their individuality.
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