While your child may actually benefit more from learning about his or her sexuality as early as possible, as a parent you yourself may have reservations on whether your child can absorb such information in a healthy manner. More often than not, the difficulty lies in how much to tell your child at what time, especially for children who are in the preteen ages.
Although it is essential for you to get past the simple birds-and-bees lecture and move on to more of the 'adult' stuff. You can educate your teen about the basics of sex without crossing over taboos. It is doable if you know where to start.
If you haven't yet told your child about the basics of human reproduction, now is the best time to do so, since at this phase they may have heard the 'unofficial' version from their friends, and you have to straighten out any misconceptions immediately. Ask them about their understanding on the issue (this reveals the second-hand notions they obtained from their friends), and after the child has given out his or her two cents worth, be prepared to dish out the truth in a discreet manner. Preadolescent children are usually the ones who get the wrong ideas on sex.
Your preteen may also be experiencing physical changes which are rather unusual to him or her; and concerns on which changes are normal and which are not may surface. Be the first to assure your child that the changes he or she is undergoing through is perfectly normal, and that the concerns are valid. It may also help if you make an effort to share your own experiences when you yourself were at the same age and phase of adolescence.
There is a chance that your child may have gained misconceptions on sex from the wrong sources. For instance, an older friend might have shown him or her a video flick involving porn stars doing the sexual act.
The child's mind is too young to comprehend such images, and if your child becomes an unwilling witness to premature exposure with such, you can prevent the outlook distortion by explaining that porn stars are engaged in activities reserved for adults; there is nothing wrong with the act in itself, but he or she needs to grow up more in order to understand which acts are offensive and which are not.
At such an age, your preteen may also be exploring his or her personality even at such a young age, and although the possibility may be a far stretch for you a child in puberty can get pregnant. Inform your child of the results of sexual behavior before he or she learns it the hard way.
Pregnancy is good, but only if your child has grown up and tied the knot. Besides, your child should also be informed of the risks of STDs even before they have a full understanding of the disease. Tell the story from the perspective of both genders, and both parents can take turns in educating the child about sex in the healthiest, most informed ways possible with love and understanding.
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